The Melody Lingers On

– Ita Buttrose on Memorialising Her Father's Life

"It is amazing how incredibly evocative music is – certain songs can stir forgotten emotions and take us back to special moments in time. For instance, whenever I hear Wagner, Handel and Gershwin I immediately think of my father, who loved the music of these great composers. My memories of dad, are preserved and memorialised in their music and whenever I hear them I stop and think of the many happy times dad and I enjoyed together.

The anniversary of dad’s death is always a time of mixed emotions. Sometimes I prefer quiet and simple contemplation and other times a lively, energy-filled family gathering. Both have the same objective – remembrance. Whether you feel it’s meaningful to mark your loved one’s life on the anniversary of their death or perhaps the anniversary of their birthday, the way you choose to remember a loved one can change with every passing year."

"Memorialisation is a lovely concept I think. It’s a ceremony that honours the memory of someone or something, like a military victory for instance. It allows people to share stores of a deceased person and helps keep memories alive. You’re really only limited by your imagination in deciding how to do this. It can be a family celebration, a church service, an address or even a formal ceremony of remembrance. It also can be a physical and permanent place of remembrance, such as in a memorial park or garden, where your memorial will be  safe forever."

Ita Buttrose is the brand ambassador for White Lady & Mareena Purslowe Funerals

"When it comes to the best ways to memoralise a loved one White Lady Funerals and Mareena Purslowe Funerals are the experts. Their ability to intuitively know what you and your family need is unique. Whether it is a simple tribute or a more formal commemoration they understand the importance of memorialisation in the grieving process and the need for families to have a way, or a place, where they can be with their thoughts and feelings for the person they are missing.

Memorialisation can happen not just at the time of loss but also when special days come around such as birthdays, anniversaries and, in my case, Father’s Day.

We decided to plant a tree to commemorate and honour dad’s life. He really enjoyed gardening so for my brothers and me, it was a most fitting memorial. A vibrant, beautiful tree represents something sturdy, long lasting, and physical that will grow grander with the years and benefit everyone in this and future generations. It creates that very special place we were looking for, where we – and other family members and friends – can visit whenever any of us want to do so.

The plaque on the tree sums up our feelings: "The song may have ended dad but the melody will always linger on".

On what would have been his 100th birthday we invited some close friends and family over for a celebration lunch. We toasted dad’s life and his achievements with champagne and a birthday cake with one large candle and, of course, music provided by Wagner, Handel and Gershwin! Dad would have enjoyed the party.

Maybe the ways we’ve memorialised dad’s life might appeal to you but with the sensitive, skillful assistance of the White Lady team you’ll discover there are many options to choose from. You can trust them to help you come up with a perfect memorialisation tribute that will ensure the memory and legacy of your loved ones."

Prepaying a funeral with White Lady Funerals, or Mareena Purslowe Funerals in WA, gives you:

  • A funeral that truly reflects the life you've lived.
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  • Security in the knowledge that funds are safely held by the Guardian Over Fifty Friendly Society, an APRA registered organisation.
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